Compassion....

The last post was called "Marchin' On", becauuuse...I forgot to write about that song...It's One Republic. And it has been my theme song since late last year for other reasons. But it's good for simply just reminding you- marching on is needed. This is my favorite part, "For this dance we'll move with each other.There ain't no other step than one foot,Right in front of the other."And so we keep marchin on right? Is there any other way?


Now, we had mentioned something about the 5 fundamentals of relationships. We mentioned Trust. We mentioned Respect. What should the next one be? I was thinking compassion....I don't know though, I could pick another one...But, well, I suppose we can go with this one since it's Easter and all. ( although I am not religious, I do respect the fact that people are and I enjoy that it makes them happy and brings them peace. I suppose they would say Jesus was compassionate? ) So that being said what is compassion? Mark Twain had a nice little quote about it...anyone know what I am talking about? Kindness is compassion is it not? (I really should have put my glasses on this late at night) So Mark Twain said this, "Kindness is the language the deaf can hear and the blind can see". Really? If only we could all remember to have some compassion? Scenarios in the store of the grocery line and maybe a younger person gets impatient with a senior citizen who is going slower and talking to the cashier in the express line...What if that is the only person that senior talks to all day? What if that senior is mourning the loss of their spouse and needs to just talk about nothing with someone? When I used to see mother's in the grocery store rolling their eyes or raising their voices to their kids I would think what is wrong with them? Don't they have any patience for their kids? How can they be that way towards the kids, they are only kids? Hahahahahaaa..... that was before I had kids. Now I LOVE my kids. With all of my being. But they can be trying...Now when I see those mothers in the store, I want to hug them, and say, it will be okay. This will all be done tonight when they are in bed. Tomorrow is a new day. Kindness and compassion. It's a noun and a verb. Wouldn't you agree? You can do it and you can feel it. It isn't hard. It can be small and simple ways.


How does this play in a relationship? We have compassion for our spouse. They have compassion for us. We feel with them their bad day and give them a hug and say it's okay, tomorrow is a new day. They support us when we decide to go out on a limb and get hurt. They hug us and say it will be ok. Compassion is understanding. It's feeling and sending feeling. It's simple gestures. Simple words. Simple deeds. We needn't get lost in going all out for compassion, I believe it is very simple. It's an open mind. It's an open heart.


I suppose now I bring it back to the you part now... if you can't be compassionate to you how can you be compassionate to someone else? Do you agree? Isn't it just like Trust and respect? You have to be able to do all these things with yourself before you can do it with others, eh? So all the roads are long and winding but in the end they all lead back to you. You wake up everyday to choices...So many choices....and if you wake up you are one lucky bastard because somewhere there are some people who didn't wake up and some of them went to bed angry...never go to bed angry. Something my Grandpa told me a long time ago when I was a wee little one...good advice he gave me...


Compassion. Doesn't it just flow off your lips like the tide flows in and out at the beach? It's as easy to participate in compassion as it is to say it.




I took myself to therapy this past week. Whoa- felt so good it was like a trip to the spa! I went with an open mind and no expectations. Best thing eva- I can't wait to go back. The hour went way too fast. I left with good information and good tools. I knew I needed to do something I just didn't know how. It's like having a sanding block but no paper to put on it...This therapy is more to get tools. It's not counseling for me really...I am fully aware of what is going on in my life and I am trying to deal with it but there are some things I am not sure either what tool I would need or how to use a tool in my hand. So I get a little relief and I get a little direction. It's a good thing, I would recommend anyone go find a therapist if they need to get assistance with anything. Find a way, we are not in this world alone. If you do not have insurance there are all kinds of public programs...you just have to look. You just have to ask, have some compassion for you. 


Now...I really need my glasses...
I bid you peace and light...may they both find you well.