Well here we are late April and we wake up to snow. Now last monday is was 85 degrees...Mother Nature is apparently feeling bipolar. Oh well... we will wait for it to melt because what else can we do...
So I always go back and read my last post to connect them. We are picking another fundamental of relationships. I left it as support or humility. So when I decide which one I always go and look up the meaning of them. Humility is interesting so we will start with that one and maybe pick up support because ironically when I wrote it I wasn't realizing how intertwined they were...
So humility brings you back to the word humble. Humble: not proud or arrogant. Having a feeling of inferiority.Now humility is:the condition of being humble, the modest estimate or opinion of one's own importance or rank.
Humble and humility. They are surely needed in a relationship. Because sometimes, you need to put the other person before yourself. I'm not in the slightest saying not to be proud, please go on and be proud...but there is no room for arrogance in a relationship. Because if you pick the word relationship apart...rela would be meaning to relate...tion is a suffix, and ship- uuummm we are on this boat together, and we have to sail it. That is how I see a relationship. Two people on a boat, no sailor just them. They need to man the boat safely through the waters of life. And to be humble while doing so, would that be hard? Possibly for some people but those are the ones that need to practice it the most. I am not saying to be submissive here all the time by any means. I am saying that there is a time and a place to bring yourself down to another level so that the other person can be lifted to importance. Little gestures of kindness, little gestures of love and devotion. Nothing needs to be big. These are all simple small adjustments that can be done.
How do I be humble? How do I practice humility? Well how about this for example: when someone calls you and they begin to tell you they have had a bad day, listen to them. Do not interrupt with a problem you may be having. They called you because they needed you. Do not take that need away and turn the subject on to yourself. Listen and look for small opportunities to do good for another and to take yourself down a notch. We could all use a slice of humble pie now and again...there are no calories involved.
So is being humble some how related to being supportive? The meaning of support: to bear or hold up, to maintain, AND----to undergo, or endure especially with patience and submission, tolerate. Well that is interesting...To endure with submission...to hold up with humility...what do you think? To give strength to something else by being there and holding a quiet ground. Not shouting out, " I am here holding you up in your time of need, look at me doing good by you. Heeyyy I am being a very good supporter here." That's all wrong and so many times we all fall into that trap, because we want people to notice we are being humble...and that is missing the boat my friends...missing the boat all together.
Support in a relationship is the bow and the stern and the sails...they make the ship move in one direction. They keep the ship together. Unified. Oooo now there is a nice word. I think support is almost self explanatory...Just hold it up, just be there to give. Be there. Just be strong. Lift the other person. Hold the other person up. Give them what they need and take nothing until later when they give it to you.
And alas we have come to the conclusion for the time being. Sail your ship with your partner. Sail it together, through the sun and the cloudy days. Sail it together through the stormy days as well. Everything is better if you do it together.
Wishing you love and peace this week, hoping it finds you well.
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